Tamsen Carson, Physician Assistant
Sadly, miscarriages are a common thing; in fact, about one-third of all pregnancies end this way. They usually are a result of the genes not lining up correctly, and thus the baby wouldn’t have a normal life, so the pregnancy ends.
The loss of a pregnancy at 10 weeks or 40 weeks is just as hard, and you will expect to feel overwhelming sadness and grief. There is no correct way to get through a miscarriage, but I recommend talking and crying with loved ones, and even writing in a journal every day can really help. The only thing that will make it hurt less is time.
It is ok to take a break from work, and you can even start trying again for another pregnancy after one normal menstrual cycle. Friends and family can help just by being there to be a shoulder to cry on, or to let mom talk about her experience. Sometimes, you don’t have to say anything but “I’m here for you.”
Don’t forget that the father too is going through a loss, and may need some comfort as well. If you aren’t feeling a little better after a month or so, you may have postpartum depression, it is important to follow up with your doctor after the miscarriage.
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